What are the problems?
When you receive a HIV-positive diagnosis, it can be hard to know who to tell about it and to know how they, other people.
Inform others can be good because:
- You can get the love and support to help you deal with your health.
- You can keep your close friends and loved ones informed about issues that are important to you.
- You do not have a reason to hide your HIV status.
- You can get most of the right health care.
- You can reduce the chances of transmitting the disease to others.
- In many countries, fortunately not in Brazil, but you should know about the laws of the country or countries that you want to live or even maintain an affair because you can be guilty of a felony for not saying a partner that you are HIV positive before you have intimate contact.
Well, this is a personal website and is gaining interactive smoke and, after reading the article by Bob VolpeHe suggested me and I add, verbatim:
- Congratulations on posting, queridão, but I would include the positives the fact that you can be sure of who is and who is not really your friend. That's when the rats abandon ship. lol Good morning!
Tell others can indeed be very bad because:
- Others may find it difficult to accept their state of health.
- Some people will be able to discriminate against you because of their serostatus.
- You may be rejected in social situations or dating and it can be very painful to suffer a sense of rejection in the loving field.
You do not have to tell everyone. Take your time to decide who to say and how you will approach them. Make sure you are ready. Once you tell someone you do not forget they are HIV positive.
Here are some things to think about when you are thinking of telling someone you HIV positive:
- Know the reason why you want to tell them. What do you want from them?
- Anticipate your reaction. What's the best you can expect? The worst we can have to deal with?
- Prepare well, inform yourself about your condition as a person living with HIV, so you will give this person more security. [Translator note: Nothing worse at this time is the person asking something about the disease and you answer: "I do not know" ... ' ] That would settle the invoice immediately]. You may want to leave articles and websites with information about this or a phone number like the 0800 16 25 50 dialer for the person you tell so that she can find out for herself.
- Get support.Talk more to someone you trust and have a plan and avoid intimate contacts until your condition.
- Oilthe reaction. You can not control how others will deal with your news, and in any case, it may need more time to reconsider.
People you may have exposed to HIV: can be very difficult to do. Warn (...) your status to sexual partners or people you shared needles with. However, it is very important that they / they know so that they can decide to test themselves, as this is very important, helping to break the "transmission line" and, if they are diagnosed HIV positive, get the health care that they need. The Health Department can tell people you may have been exposed without using your name.
Employers: You can tell your employer if HIV disease or treatment can interfere with your job performance, REMEMBER: EMPLOYER HAS NO RIGHT TO TEST YOUR SEROLOGIES UPON ACCEPTANCE, EXAMINATION OR ANNUAL resigning. Get a letter from your doctor that explains what you need to do for your health (taking medications, resting periods, etc.). Talk to your boss or staff director. Tell them that you plan to continue working and that changes may be necessary in your schedule or workload. Make sure they understand that you want to keep your HIV status confidential.
People with disabilities are protected from discrimination in employment and under the law. While you can do the essential functions of your job, your employer can not legally discriminate you because of your serostatus. When you apply for a new job, employers are not allowed to ask about your health or any disability. They can only legally ask if you have any condition that might interfere with the essential functions of the job.
Members of the family: it can be difficult to decide whether to tell your parents, children or other relatives who are HIV positive. Many people fear that their family members will be hurt or frustrated. Others think that not telling parents will weaken their relationships and may need to keep them in psychological support, give them emotional and loving support they want. It can be very stressful to keep an important secret from people so close.
Family members may want to know how you have been exposed to HIV.
Deciding whether or how you are going to answer some questions about how you have been infected can be quite a difficult task and you may not even answer this question.
Remember, however, that his silence can give rise to many "summers on how you contracted HIV ...
Your relatives may appreciate knowing that you are getting good health care, that you are taking care of yourself and about your support network.
Health care providers: is your decision on the question of whether or not you should tell a healthcare provider that you have HIV. If your providers, including dentists, know that you have HIV, they should be able to give you the most appropriate health care. All service providers must protect themselves from diseases carried in the blood of patients. If service providers are likely to come in contact with your blood, you can remind them to put on gloves.
Social contacts: Encounters can be very scary for people with HIV. Fear of rejection prevents many people from talking about their HIV status. Do not forget that every situation is different and you do not have to tell everyone. If you will not be in a situation where HIV could be transmitted, there is no need to say. Sooner or later in a relationship, it will be important to talk about your HIV status. The longer you wait, the harder it becomes to tell the truth. I would like to say that I was more than 11 months without at least getting a hug.This for several reasons: I "feared to transmit HIV" if I were to hug someone, on the other hand, they spoke I wanted to have sex again, and in both houses of the house I would like to have sex, and I wanted to have sex again. support the vast majority was made up of gay and although I have nothing to do with how they all exercise their sexualities, I do not exercise mine like that and so I was well, well three years in complete compulsory sexual abstinence, and I've always been a sexually energetic man as a man.
HIV School of the Child: you better have good communication about your HIV status from a child. Meet with the principal and discuss the school's policy (which can not under any pretext deny the child's enrollment) and what actions to take by virtue of some sudden manifestation due to HIV. Be sure to talk about your child's legal right to confidentiality.
Translated by Cláudio Souza from the original Telling Others You're HIV Positive.
Review: Mara Macedo
Tip added Bob Volpe